The North American definition of “blended family” would state…a family consisting of a couple and their children from this and all previous relationships.
-In 1960 73% of children lived in a 2 biological parent home
-In 1980 61% of children lived in a 2 biological parent home
-In 2014 46% of children live in a 2 biological parent home
THE MOTHERS AND SONS OF ISRAEL… (Gen. 29, 30, 35)
Leah – First Wife
Bilah – Rachel’s Maidservant
Zilpah – Leah’s Maidservant
Leah – First Wife
Rachel – Second Wife – First Love
4 MYTHS ABOUT BLENDED FAMILIES
Myth #1 – Blended is bad.
Myth #2 – Relationships amongst the blended occur instantly.
Myth #3 – Blended families operate like traditional families.
Myth #4 – A blended family should look like what we see on TV.
HOW TO BECOME A BEAUTIFULLY BLENDED FAMILY OF GOD
1) Our goal should be unity. (Gen. 37:3-11)
2) Clear boundaries and follow them. (Heb. 12:7-11)
“Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as His children. For what children are not disciplined by their
father? 8 If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true
sons and daughters at all. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected
them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! 10 They disciplined us for a little
while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in His holiness. 11 No
discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness
and peace for those who have been trained by it.”
3) Be who we say we are. (Gen. 39-41)
4) Forgive a lot. (Gen. 42-45)
Family is in the business of forgiving!
Matt. 18:21-22 “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister
who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ 22 Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven
5) Understand that family is forever. (Galatians 4:4-7)
“But when the set time had fully come, God sent His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to
redeem those under the law, that we might receive adoption to sonship. 6 Because you are His sons, God sent
the Spirit of His Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, ‘Abba, Father.’ 7 So you are no longer a slave, but
God’s child; and since you are His child, God has made you also an heir.”
Are you allowing yourself to be part of the beautifully blended family of God?